Would you consider using Qt Creator for Qt development? (This isn't at all being said nasty-like, just in case)
I'd encourage you to at least get into Creator to see the example projects.
I feel your sentiment as I came from Microsoft land but I too never actually got MSVC / Qt project going - I got close but honestly... by the time I got my head around signals and slots and how it all worked - I'd begun to not only live with but like Qt Creator.
Something worth trying for before just giving up
(clearly we think so - we are still here).